Wednesday, December 30, 2015

A few odds and ends

  •  I overheard a conversation at a coffee shop where three middle aged women were talking about grandkids.  Apparently one has "a real bitch" of a daughter in law because she "hasn't given her any grandkids yet" after three years of marriage.  I practically bit my tongue off and maxed out my shut-up filter to not stand up to that vile woman on behalf of her daughter-in-law.  Because 1) her son and daughter-in-law's reproductive plans are none of her business and 2) how does she know that they aren't already trying and having trouble.
  • Being that my shut-up filter was already maxed out, I was in no mood to listen politely to the pro-life coalition (or some crap like that) lady when she approached my table with religious literature and started her speech.  So we had a nice conversation about women's rights and how if she wanted to use her religion as a guide for medical decisions for herself, that's fine, but she shouldn't use it as a justification to judge other people for their choices.  I did most of the talking and by the time I was done with her she didn't know whether she was coming or going.  The look on her face really was priceless and I think that she realized that whatever speech she had prepared or "facts" on her flyer were not likely to convince me to switch over to her position.  
  • My dog had to have a tooth pulled on Monday.  I was a nervous wreck the whole time I knew that he was in surgery.  It's ridiculous how stressed out that I was about the whole thing.  He's doing great now, other than having an upset stomach from his antibiotic, which is making my already terrible sleep even worse.
  • My sister hasn't mentioned the whole gender reveal thing again.  Maybe she realized her poor timing. Unlikely, but one can hope.
  • On a related note, I only have seven weeks (plus or minus a bit) left of having at least one pregnant sister.  To say that it's been a long 20 (and counting) months is an understatement.  
  • Our weather has been unseasonably warm which means that my seasonal allergies, which I usually get a respite from during the winter, have lingered longer than usual.  I'm beginning to wonder what it feels like to not be congested.  Thankfully it's supposed to get colder this weekend.  
  • I finally decided that after nearly four years of living in this city that I needed to find a GP.  After wading through the insurance website's list of doctors that were accepting new patients (which was not user friendly) I found one that met my criteria and scheduled an appointment.  My appointment is next Wednesday.  I have no idea why this appointment is causing me anxiety.  Probably because the last time I tried to find a new GP to start the infertility referral process, I walked in and she was visibly pregnant, which made a conversation about trouble getting pregnant super awkward.


  1. Dear fellow allergy suffering insomniac,
    I feel you, sister. You've had a LOT going on.
    I also feel good things in my bones for you in 2016.
    Wishing you all the best, Kinsey. xo

    1. Thanks! I hope good things are on the horizon!

      Allergies or insomnia are bad enough, but both at the same time are pretty crappy! Sucks that you have to deal with both too!

  2. I probably would've said something to that first lady, but I guess it also depends on the day and how much I have already bitten my tongue.

    1. I think that if I had been part of the conversation I would have said something. But since I just happened to be within earshot of a private conversation I didn't think it was my place. But I reeeeeeealy wanted to!

  3. I always find it extraordinary to hear that (potential) grandparents feel that they are owed grandchildren.

    No, I doubt your sister realised her poor timing. Before anyone knew we were trying to get pregnant, my SIL announced her pregnancy one Christmas Day. I was stunned how much it ruined my day. I wish people would consider announcements (on any subject) they make, and think about how those receiving the announcements might feel.

    I can't believe you haven't had a GP for four years! Ah, to be young and healthy again! lol

    Sympathies with the allergies. I don't suffer too much, but I did just open my window, and promptly start sneezing!

    1. I don't understand the whole "owed grandchildren" thing either! Ugh.

      Before infertility I thought it would be fun to announce a pregnancy on a holiday at a family gathering. Now I'm ashamed that I even thought's so insensitive. I wish that people would take a second to think about the feelings of others too!

      I actually haven't officially had a GP since 2007. Too long. I expect it to be something like when I hadn't been to the dentist in five years and ended up with five fillings and a root canal/crown.

  4. Oooh, red rag to a bull – and two situations at that! Picked your battle - sounds like you gave her a lot to think about.
    Good to hear your dog is on the mend.

    20 months is a long time to be in that heightened state of disquiet. Here’s hoping 2016 is your ‘year of calm’.

    We’ve had a pretty dry summer so far and cooling breezes coming in from the south each evening, but the irritation to my eyes is driving me crazy. Feb is when I usually replenish the allergy eye drops stockpile but I’ve had to move it forward by several weeks.
    The hubby has mentioned I’ve been a bit flat this week – I blamed it on the allergies (half right) and not the time of year.

    Great, who needs peer pressure when you can have blog pressure!
    Now I’m squirming in my seat – this year was the first in five years (yeah I know, way too long) since I’ve been to my GP (for the ‘100 day flu’ as they were calling it). I think I better put “make an appointment” on my new year’s resolution list.

    1. Here's to hoping for an uneventful 2016 too!

      Sorry you've had allergy issues too! They suck!

      I really do suck at self-care. Sounds like you do too. :)

  5. That woman's "I deserve to be a grandma hear me roar" attitude is the main reason why the next generation needs to be much better educated on infertility and childlessness.

    I totally love #2:-)

    I have doctor PTSD too (yeah, shocking I know).

    1. I agree that there needs to be more education!

      Glad to hear I'm not the only one with doctor PTSD!

  6. Long time reader of Mali's and decided to follow the link in your comment to her recent post. That woman who feels her DIL is a butch for depriving her of grandchildren is a horrible human being. I bet she uses them for tokens of self-worth and measuring her own success in life because she's just that empty. I'm so sorry you had to sit next to her. But I'm glad you rechanneled that energy into educating another ignorant woman. Why is it those who are so intent on converting people tend to also be the most unfulfilled and limited individuals?

    Wishing you a peaceful 2016.

    1. Hello and welcome!

      I didn't think about it...she probably does measure her own self-worth for measuring her own success!

      The second woman was just ignorant. I'm respectful of all beliefs, but I'm not ok with trying to push those beliefs on others!

  7. I admire how reasoned you sound when talking with the pro-life leafletter!

  8. The lady with the pamphlets picked the wrong chick at the VERY wrong time, lol. ;) Good luck with the new GP... my family dr of 29 years retired last year... the first dr we went to was OK, but he left the practice about six months later (!). We are REALLY liking his replacement, though!