Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Insensitive things that people say

"Trust me....trying for the second child is so much harder!"

This woman knows about my infertility.  I thought she was a friend.

I have never wanted to punch someone in the throat as much as I did in that moment.
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  1. KlaraJanuary 14, 2015 at 12:29 AM

    I know. How many times did I want to punch someone!

    One of the few really advantages of the infertility is selection of friends. How many "friends" did I loose in the last 10 years, mainly because of saying insensitive things . Which is actually good. I can devote my time only to few remaining who really deserve my time.

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    1. BentNotBrokenJanuary 14, 2015 at 6:32 AM

      I was flummoxed when she said it. Literally couldn't believe that statement came from her. I did tell her that it was an asshole thing to say, so that makes me better.

      Infertility does impact your friend pool. One of my biggest problems is that I've moved around so much as an adult that the bulk of my friends live a plane trip away from me and I haven't made many friends since we moved to this city because I really wasn't inclined to become friends with parents while dealing with the worst parts of infertility.

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    2. AnonymousJanuary 18, 2015 at 8:28 AM

      I love that you stood up for yourself! There's so much pressure to just absorb that sh*t and suffer in secret.

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    3. BentNotBrokenJanuary 18, 2015 at 5:32 PM

      LOL! Usually I would just take it because saying something would mean tears. But I was feeling particularly strong that day. :)

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  2. MaliJanuary 15, 2015 at 6:42 AM

    "Seriously? You're going to say that to me, of all people?" That would have been my automatic response.

    Clearly though the person thinks she's having a hard time. But she's not looking for support in the right way.

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  3. UnknownJanuary 19, 2015 at 5:39 PM

    ::headdesk:: I'm sorry someone said that to you.

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    1. BentNotBrokenJanuary 20, 2015 at 7:39 AM

      I'd like to say that I'm used to people saying stupid things, but I don't think I ever will be.

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