After reading my previous post about emotions surrounding being child free (all negative), Obie challenged me to come up with a list of positive feelings about life without future children. While I couldn't come up with 13, I was able to come up with a few. I'll add to it as I come up with more.
Here are some positive feelings about life without children:
- Unencumbered- It is a nice feeling to know that I'm not going to have to consider children when making life decisions. Hubs and I can do what we want without factoring kids into the equation. When we eventually buy a house we can buy the house we want with no consideration given to expanding our family. If I want to accept a new job, we can move wherever we want without worrying about things like switching schools or pediatricians. We can talk about whatever topics and use whatever language in our house that we want to without worrying that "little ears" are going to repeat what they hear at school. It feels like freedom.
- Passionate-I think that one thing that most parents will agree on is that things in the bedroom take a hit when you have kids. With no kids, we don't have to worry about this. Additionally, without kids in the house we can be spontaneous and not worry about making sure the kids are in bed or that we'll wake them up. I can say with 100% confidence that our sex life improved 1000 fold when we stepped off of the TTC train. There are also bonuses such as, cough, not worrying about changes in your anatomy due to childbirth.
- Connectedness-I can focus on the relationships that are meaningful and important to me without feeling guilt related to sacrificing time with my children to cultivate adult relationships.