Pregnancy announcements, that is.
One of my college roommates announced pregnancy number two to me and another college roommate yesterday in a private message on Facebook, complete with a scan picture. Both people she announced to have infertility issues; I obviously chose to live without children and the other friend and her husband chose to adopt. The friend that announced knows all of this. I appreciated the in advance announcement but scan pictures are always pretty hard for me.
So I did what any self-respecting infertile would do and responded in a passive-agressive, slightly snarky manner. I poured a big glass of wine, took a picture of it, sent it to the friend, and offered toast to her good news. This friend loves wine and won't be drinking it for the better part of a year so I thought it was fitting to share a picture that she didn't really want to see in response to her sending me a picture that I didn't really want to see. I'm probably a jerk. :)
dear BnB,
ReplyDeleteI am almost 10 years older than you are. If this is any consolation: after certain amount of time there is much less pregnancy announcements. And they hurt less.
hugs.
I don't want to wish my life away, but I almost can't wait until I hit 40 just so there are fewer announcements. Hurting less would be nice too! I think I'm doing a lot better (right now, at least) because I read the announcement, was sad for maybe an hour, and then shook it off. Six months ago I know I would have been depressed for a week or two.
DeleteLol! That was a good response!!
ReplyDeleteScan pictures are a particular trigger for me. I've only ever had scans to diagnose problems - my ectopic pregnancies for example, to cancel an IVF cycle, or to diagnose fibroids and prescribe a hysterectomy. I find scan pictures to be unnecessary, and important only for the parents-to-be. I don't know if you've heard my story of emailing good friends offshore to tell them of my second ectopic (they didn't know about my first, but I updated them at the same time) - it was part of a Christmas message - how joyous! - only to receive a response saying "sorry to hear that, but we're pregnant, and attached is our scan!" Needless to say I deleted the email, and never opened the attachment.
People never cease to amaze me. I can't even believe that they would do that. They were excited, as they should be, but they picked a really terrible time to tell you.
DeleteScan pictures are a trigger for me too, as well as positive pregnancy tests (because I had so many negatives over the years and never a single positive).
Heh heh!! Love your response!
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