Yesterday wasn't terrible. Hubs fed the dog and took him out which allowed me to sleep in until 6:30. When I got up I made myself a mimosa to drink while coffee was brewing* and made myself pancakes. I deserve pancakes. And a mimosa.
I went to my local big box store mainly because I was out of shampoo. It wasn't as bad as I expected. No one wished me Happy Mother's Day.
I called my mom to wish her a happy day. She went on and on about how my dog was my child and wished me a happy mother's day. I appreciate her effort to make me feel included, but with as much as I love my dog and consider him a part of my family, he's not a replacement for a child. As luck would have it "my phone battery was dying" and I had to let her go. Tears were just below the surface so a white lie was better. My mom doesn't really do feelings well so what I got was about as much acknowledgement that the day was hard for me as I expected to get from her. Maybe even a little more.
Hubs made us a nice steak dinner, which would have been a bit better if there weren't some work things requiring his attention that apparently had to be taken care of as we ate. But it's still a steak dinner so I'll refrain from (publicly) complaining (too much). I didn't have to cook or clean up either which made it a little easier to not chastise him (that much) for texting while eating.
Otherwise I spent most of rest of the day curled up on the couch reading. When I say curled up, I really mean that I was sprawled out on the couch in front of a fan trying to stay cool. Because apparently we have both snow flurries and 90+ degree temperatures in a two week span where I live.
I'll admit that I was dreading it. But it wasn't that bad. No tears. A little bit of sadness. But I made it through. We all did. Hopefully next year will be just as uneventful. Hugs to everyone!
*To be clear and so no one worries about me, drinking before 7am is not something I regularly do.
Sounds like a nice day. Mimosa and pancakes- lovely!
ReplyDeleteIt was! I hope you had a nice day too!
DeleteI think that day deserves a Mimosa. And wine with dinner.
ReplyDeleteYou know me too well! Of course there was wine with dinner! :)
DeleteI'm shaking my head at " ... sleep in until 6.30!" You absolutely deserved the mimosa. Glad the day wasn't terrible.
ReplyDeleteI get that reaction a lot! I take it that you're more of a "crack of noon" type of person as opposed to a "crack of dawn" type?
DeleteI'm so happy your day turned out to be nice and not as miserable as you dreaded! My husband and I went to a restaurant to celebrate an occasion for us, we actually forgot it was Mother's day and I was sitting and wondering why there were so many large parties with kids that night LOL
ReplyDeleteI agree, a dog is in no way a replacement for a child but on the other hand your mom was not just trying to make you feel included. I think she was very sincere because we are 'moms' to our pets even if we deny it (like I used to until I finally gave up :) ). We are there for them to comfort them in sickness and in emotional distress, to share their joy, to love and be loved, to hurt when they hurt, to clean their messes, to teach them manners, to be happy for their achievements, to pay medical (and sometimes legal) bills, to plan vacations and purchase real estate with them in mind, to wake up at night to listen if they breathe when they get older :( Totally different than kids but still very special and fully dependent on us.
You hit the nail on the head! Our dog is definitely special to us and a huge part of our life! We have definitely fully embraced the pet parent idea and we do refer to each other as mommy and daddy. I think our dog fills a void and I've fully embraced the "crazy dog lady" reputation. Hell, I live stream my dog at daycare in my office, just so I can check on him.
DeleteA mimosa before 7 a.m. on Mother's Day sounds lovely, a special treat that you deserve along with pancakes. :) I can completely commiserate with the mother who tries to connect but just doesn't quite say the right thing, but you don't want to discourage her for trying so...white lie. I told my family never to get me Mother's Day cards from the cats. Because they make such things, and to me that just does not make it better. Furry friends are great family members, and I may hold my cat like a baby more than he'd like, but they are NOT actual children. Close, but no cigar. I'm glad the day wasn't terrible -- that sounds like an improvement over previous years. Always nice when that day is bearable...I hope it's a trend for the future.
ReplyDeleteMother's Day cards from cats?! Oh my! I hope your day wasn't terrible either.
DeleteThis is a great post. I'm glad you took care of yourself.
ReplyDeleteThe anticipation is almost always the worst part, I think. Glad you had a good day!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Loribeth!
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