tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post7192015473735172452..comments2023-04-26T10:48:38.547-04:00Comments on Bent Not Broken: Things I'm trying not to think about (and not succeeding at it)BentNotBrokenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-75383142767894400272015-01-30T12:14:55.138-05:002015-01-30T12:14:55.138-05:00dear BnB,
your mum really does not get it. I am so...dear BnB,<br />your mum really does not get it. I am sorry for that.<br />I am glad you sent your sister1 a SMS. It doesn't matter if you hurt her feelings. She hurt yours first! At least she will not bother you with complaining SMSs any more. <br />Warm hugs!Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-88327732705543726462015-01-29T18:27:47.602-05:002015-01-29T18:27:47.602-05:00Glad sister 2 apologised profusely. I have to say,...Glad sister 2 apologised profusely. I have to say, I have a sister 1 and sister 2 too, and at times, the relationships can be complicated.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-15635426128667639522015-01-29T06:57:18.064-05:002015-01-29T06:57:18.064-05:00My mother and I have a complicated relationship. ...My mother and I have a complicated relationship. Sadly these types of interactions aren't uncommon. If pregnant sister 1 brings it up I will happily discuss my reasons with her, but I will not go through a mediator (particularly since the mediator isn't neutral). I talked to pregnant sister 2 about the birthday party (well she brought it up when we called to tell niece happy birthday) and she apologized profusely and didn't even make excuses. So that was nice.<br /><br />You made very good suggestions for the anniversary. We will definitely do something meaningful. I definitely do think that the buildup will be worse than the day! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-90550140894211865902015-01-28T20:47:02.727-05:002015-01-28T20:47:02.727-05:00This is really a tough time. I'm sorry the bir...This is really a tough time. I'm sorry the birthday party debacle was in fact, a debacle. And also terribly sorry for your mother's comments. She really doesn't get it - she can see things from your sister's (sister 1) perspective, but not yours. Sadly, that's not that unusual. I don't think you need to apologise. It's really up to you if you want to take it further - or for your sister to raise it. Not for her to run to mummy to complain!<br /><br />Anniversaries are tough - the time of year, the weather, what's happening at work or school or on the street or in the garden, it all reminds us of that time when we got news we didn't want, and of all the emotions around that. Maybe you and your husband could do something special on the day. For a long time I used to light a little candle on anniversaries, or other times when I wanted to remember my losses. Even little things can help. Also, in my experience, the build up to the anniversary (probably like the build up to the birth of your niece) are often worse than the actual day. In anticipating these events, we often anticipate the worst. (Well, I do/did anyway).<br /><br />Looking forward to the book reviews.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.com