tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post6486755531726446439..comments2023-04-26T10:48:38.547-04:00Comments on Bent Not Broken: When sad is buried by happinessBentNotBrokenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-45653504638741375472018-01-16T16:43:11.825-05:002018-01-16T16:43:11.825-05:00Families... oy. :p I am so sorry your mom wasn...Families... oy. :p I am so sorry your mom wasn't able to there for you in the same way she was for your sister. I don't blame you for feeling hurt. (((hugs))) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-5082748560984701542018-01-15T05:37:37.511-05:002018-01-15T05:37:37.511-05:00I second what Jess says: when family screw it up a...I second what Jess says: when family screw it up and have a complete empathy malfunction, it's agonisingly painful. There seems to be a general limit on fertile people's tolerance for our plight and it's very sad. No one is ever too busy to send a message, and it hurts tenfold when what they are busy with is posting up baby stuff. Grim. Phoenix is right, the hurt will lessen over time, but for now just know we all know how you feel https://differentshoresblog.wordpress.com/https://www.blogger.com/profile/16936131757889957955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-78192642623417771152018-01-14T13:25:07.646-05:002018-01-14T13:25:07.646-05:00Oh no, I am so so sorry. This is so hard. I feel f...Oh no, I am so so sorry. This is so hard. I feel for you in this moment, and for all the cuts bundled up into this experience. When the people who are supposed to love you most screw it all up and seem to be completely devoid of empathy, it hurts so, so much. My therapist tells me all the time "don't go to a dry well seeking water. You do that time after time." Dry wells suck. It is so hard to let go of the expectations you have for people who are supposed to somehow inherently know how to make you feel better, not worse. I hope that you can take good care of yourself, and that enough other people can circle you in love, warmth, and healing thoughts to fill you up. I'm so, so sorry.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-55057373474924977362018-01-14T11:33:25.253-05:002018-01-14T11:33:25.253-05:00I am so sorry.
My family sucks in this departmen...I am so sorry. <br /><br />My family sucks in this department too. So far, none of them have said anything apologetic or empathetic to me. There's been no acknowledgement of my loss even. Part of that may be because I have kept my infertility so private, but part of it is that they just don't think. (And regardless of my private approach, my sisters know everything because my mom told them even though I told her not to.) My mom is especially selfish. If I had given her a grandchild, then she would be posting all sorts of pictures on social media (against my wishes). But I couldn't so instead she has chosen to become really engrossed with my cousin's new baby. <br /><br />But enough about me. I am sorry you are hurting. I know the hurt will lessen over time, but it still sucks right now and I am sorry. <3Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-85229194844221719082018-01-13T13:01:39.514-05:002018-01-13T13:01:39.514-05:00I know I'm a random stranger on the internet, ...I know I'm a random stranger on the internet, but I am definitely sending you love and keeping you in my thoughts today. I've wondered what's worse, living life without the hope of loved ones doing better, or living life when you have that hope and it gets dashed. I'm so sorry you're having to experience it firsthand. NotMyLinesYethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13341656344049375264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-79995872799740030222018-01-13T08:04:24.943-05:002018-01-13T08:04:24.943-05:00Terrible. I read your last post and I was really h...Terrible. I read your last post and I was really happy for you because it seemed like you were moving into a much better place and I have no doubt now that if it weren't for your family you would have been there much sooner. I wish I could shake your mother. Melioshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17748771387687894229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-40748213719892722472018-01-10T18:14:47.415-05:002018-01-10T18:14:47.415-05:00Holding you in my heart right now. That is a real...Holding you in my heart right now. That is a really difficult space to be in.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09514027938774211339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-24551658348424790002018-01-10T10:10:15.183-05:002018-01-10T10:10:15.183-05:00I’m so angry at your mom because my mom has done t...I’m so angry at your mom because my mom has done the exact same thing only to be shocked later on when called out. It is unacceptable and shows she really has failed you. I’m so sorryCristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-49808575933393839102018-01-10T05:13:01.771-05:002018-01-10T05:13:01.771-05:00Sending hugs and love. This is all so tough, and s...Sending hugs and love. This is all so tough, and so many emotions are involved. <br />I'm not sure you mother is sending the message that you don't matter. But she doesn't get it, and so is dealing with the easier emotions - joy - rather than the ones she doesn't understand. And sadly, that makes you feel even worse, and I'm so so sorry for that. <br />More love. More hugs.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-32668023056140426122018-01-10T00:48:47.512-05:002018-01-10T00:48:47.512-05:00I know... in this way my mom is very similair to y...I know... in this way my mom is very similair to yours. I was also hurt many times. But as the years passed by I have learnt that my mom was sad for me, she didn't know what to say so she choose the easiest way: she didn't say anything. <br />It is difficult for the beloved ones around us to know what to say. Saying nothing is the easiest. But it hurts us, I know.<br />sending you a big hug from sLOVEnia.Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.com