tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post556736973690765619..comments2023-04-26T10:48:38.547-04:00Comments on Bent Not Broken: Exactly what my soul neededBentNotBrokenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-88757268631082039952016-08-17T21:07:42.402-04:002016-08-17T21:07:42.402-04:00Sorry, I've been "away" from the blo...Sorry, I've been "away" from the blogosphere for a bit, in part because I've been busy traveling:-)<br /><br />Such an amazing time for us too!! I crave rare opportunities to be "normal" - I am still stunned by 1)how much I have to edit myself around people in my daily life and 2)by the myriad of reasons I might need to do it. In spite of being generally open and transparent about our losses, emotions and the infinite fallout with which we deal on a daily basis. I think we all slowly cope piece by piece and often don't realize how much the normalcy of being has eroded until we actually get to be around someone who gets it. It's invaluable. Thanks for a fabulous meeting my friend, and I do hope it's not the last time we see each other.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-92164762907685262062016-08-13T19:31:37.824-04:002016-08-13T19:31:37.824-04:00So true, I used to hate monthly meetings at work ...So true, I used to hate monthly meetings at work but there is a coworker who has been doing the testing and had some bad test results and is in the process of re-evaluating her plans. I don't wish this on anyone, but for a few minutes once a month we talk about how things are going and how annoying it is when all your friends are pregnant and no one gets it, and that makes me look forward to meeting day. Melioshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17748771387687894229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-5960250999280257812016-08-13T19:31:19.861-04:002016-08-13T19:31:19.861-04:00So true, I used to hate monthly meetings at work ...So true, I used to hate monthly meetings at work but there is a coworker who has been doing the testing and had some bad test results and is in the process of re-evaluating her plans. I don't wish this on anyone, but for a few minutes once a month we talk about how things are going and how annoying it is when all your friends are pregnant and no one gets it, and that makes me look forward to meeting day. Melioshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17748771387687894229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-45970963177292026092016-08-11T19:59:29.940-04:002016-08-11T19:59:29.940-04:00I'm sure you will one day. And it will be won...I'm sure you will one day. And it will be wonderful! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-43827308603249599012016-08-11T14:43:33.036-04:002016-08-11T14:43:33.036-04:00I am so glad to read this. It makes me happy for y...I am so glad to read this. It makes me happy for you! Being new to the blogosphere, I haven't met anyone in person yet, but I hope I will one day ;-).Elainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-43699518018283211602016-08-11T07:53:47.683-04:002016-08-11T07:53:47.683-04:00Exactly! That common ground is so valuable. It&#...Exactly! That common ground is so valuable. It's not that people with five kids are inherently bad or that I'm not open to being friends with them, but with them there is going to be more work to find that common ground. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-82550522120321147952016-08-10T04:58:50.713-04:002016-08-10T04:58:50.713-04:00So nice to spend time with people who get it. For ...So nice to spend time with people who get it. For me, when I meet someone new, it's always a bonus to find out they've been through the same stuff (not that I'm wishing this on people, but ..). When they tell me they've got five kids for e.g (so common where I am!), it's just not the same... As for meeting people that you know from online: yeah, I agree with Mali, it usually works. You already have the common ground that you don't have when you meet a new person, so the foundations are there I thinkhttps://differentshoresblog.wordpress.com/https://www.blogger.com/profile/16936131757889957955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-50621559537651745852016-08-08T20:31:45.320-04:002016-08-08T20:31:45.320-04:00Thanks! There's something special about spend...Thanks! There's something special about spending time with people who walked the same path! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-32578287733420727892016-08-08T09:16:49.646-04:002016-08-08T09:16:49.646-04:00It's so amazing to be around people who truly ...It's so amazing to be around people who truly GET it. Some of my friends have been wonderful support, some have been terrible... but there's nothing like someone who has also walked that road and can relate to the rollercoaster of emotions. Glad you had such a wonderful day :)Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03655849382429514056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-63499195946285267962016-08-08T07:40:37.408-04:002016-08-08T07:40:37.408-04:00Agreed! Getting to know each other from the insid...Agreed! Getting to know each other from the inside is the most perfect way to describe it. Yes, we were able to skip all of the "getting to know you" awkwardness. <br /><br />I'm so glad that you and Klara had the opportunity to meet. Someday I will have the opportunity to meet you both! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-78180272900895943732016-08-08T01:34:15.269-04:002016-08-08T01:34:15.269-04:00dear Mali - how time flies, there are three years ...dear Mali - how time flies, there are three years already? I do hope we meet again!<br /><br />Dear BnotB, I hope to meet you one day soon. I am already looking forward to that day! Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-33666983643090449992016-08-08T00:43:00.075-04:002016-08-08T00:43:00.075-04:00I've met bloggers and other internet friends (...I've met bloggers and other internet friends (those who shared my ectopic losses), and I've found that if you get on well through blogs and forums and emails, then you'll probably get on well in real life. There's something about too, these connections we make, "getting to know each other from the inside out" as my friend Sarahg says, that mean we are so much further ahead in establishing a relationship, because we get the tough stuff out of the way first. <br /><br />I'm glad that you all got on so well, and that you felt that freedom that can be so hard in "normal" society.<br /><br />This has reminded me that it was three years ago this month that I met Klara. Those first hugs - there's something about them!Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.com