tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post2930174868580171761..comments2023-04-26T10:48:38.547-04:00Comments on Bent Not Broken: When selfishness is called outBentNotBrokenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-43552549127738298032017-10-24T22:07:27.389-04:002017-10-24T22:07:27.389-04:00Hurt me is exactly what she did! Just rip thr band...Hurt me is exactly what she did! Just rip thr bandaid off and tell me, I’m a grown woman and I can handle it. And I’m loving the drums suggestion. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-83865393169584961952017-10-24T22:06:33.494-04:002017-10-24T22:06:33.494-04:00I’ll have to keep a drum set in mind for his birth...I’ll have to keep a drum set in mind for his birthday in February! It would be especially good timing since (as long as all goes well) he will have a baby brother or sister by his birthday. ;)BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-89970137140097861572017-10-24T22:05:09.917-04:002017-10-24T22:05:09.917-04:00You are so right, Elaine! You are so right, Elaine! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-31549345542669104362017-10-24T22:04:46.593-04:002017-10-24T22:04:46.593-04:00It would be my preference to get a simple text. Th...It would be my preference to get a simple text. That way I can feel whatever I need to feel without having to fake excitement on a phone call. But yeah, I’d rather hear it from the person then second or third hand. <br /><br />Unfortunately whether or not I wanted to see her wasn’t part of the equation. The nature of my family is that everyone has to be included. Ugh. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-64663888716345280812017-10-24T22:01:52.842-04:002017-10-24T22:01:52.842-04:00Exactly! Avoiding the elephant in the room doesn’t...Exactly! Avoiding the elephant in the room doesn’t mean it’s going to go away! And my feelings are just as important as hers. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-18232827160668210072017-10-24T22:00:09.694-04:002017-10-24T22:00:09.694-04:00Thanks, Klara! Pregnancies are hard for me too. Th...Thanks, Klara! Pregnancies are hard for me too. Though I don’t think it’s asking too much for her to be a little bit mindful of my feelings. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-53014243317159886592017-10-24T21:58:20.984-04:002017-10-24T21:58:20.984-04:00Sing along books would be quite nice for the car, ...Sing along books would be quite nice for the car, wouldn’t they?! <br /><br />She definitely can’t see how much she hurt me. Either that or she doesn’t care. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-6532248135072572732017-10-24T21:24:20.153-04:002017-10-24T21:24:20.153-04:00The response to "but I didn't want to hur...The response to "but I didn't want to hurt you" = "but that's exactly what you did." Sheesh. I am so sorry. <br /><br />So often, it's all about them. Read Cristie's latest post. It might help. Sending hugs.<br /><br />PS. Drums. (Dammit, I have just seen that Loribeth beat me to it!)Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-46464610868312635402017-10-21T20:54:00.790-04:002017-10-21T20:54:00.790-04:00Ugh... Well, it's the weekend, so I hope thing...Ugh... Well, it's the weekend, so I hope things are going well...! I like Cristy's idea about a new toy for your nephew. ;) If you need any ideas, my cousin's toddler grandson got a new miniature drumset... his mom posted a video of him bashing it with glee. ;) Looks like fun...! loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-90652813808960925882017-10-21T15:29:08.395-04:002017-10-21T15:29:08.395-04:00This is not only selfishness. It is also cowardice...This is not only selfishness. It is also cowardice, in my opinion.<br />Thinking of you this weekend <3!Elainehttp://www.elaineok.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-3648460166002856642017-10-21T13:13:15.473-04:002017-10-21T13:13:15.473-04:00Gahhh. So annoying!! And angering. And, yes, very ...Gahhh. So annoying!! And angering. And, yes, very selfish on her part. <br /><br />My husband gets mad when friends call to tell me they're pregnant because I inevitably cry when I get off of the phone with them. But my tears these days are more about losing another friendship than they are about being sad for myself (although that is still there too). I tell him that I'd rather hear it from them via phone or text before I read about it elsewhere or hear from a mutual friend. I know the phone calls aren't completely easy for my friends either. <br /><br />But dang, your sister is being so selfish. Do you have to see her this weekend? Do you WANT to? I always say that we don't have to do anything we don't want to. I am now doing things I never thought possible- things like recreating how I spend my holidays and with whom I spend my valuable, limited free time.<br /><br />I am sorry your family sounds so much like mine. Simply put, it just sucks.<br /><br />Thinking of you <3 <3 <3Infertile Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11033358612204465661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-45786740659908478662017-10-21T13:11:08.379-04:002017-10-21T13:11:08.379-04:00Argh, how annoying and hurtful. I hate when people...Argh, how annoying and hurtful. I hate when people are like, "but I didn't want to hurt you" when they can't see that by pretending it's not happening and excluding you is actually more hurtful, and makes it seem like you're broken eggshells in the making. I have a hard time with the people who say "I didn't know what to say to you" or claim obliviousness, because it is selfish, and it speaks to a complete lack of empathy. You shouldn't have to hide your feelings. And I agree with Cristy, you should have an out at the ready so you can exit the situation if it's just too awful. And hilarious with the battery toys. Something repetitive and shrieky would be awesome. Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-37067062477769364982017-10-21T02:26:41.573-04:002017-10-21T02:26:41.573-04:00I know, it is hard.
One thing that I have learnt a...I know, it is hard.<br />One thing that I have learnt as the years are passing by is that also for the people who love us, it is difficult - they don't know how to handle our sadness, our grief, our anger. Most of people just leave us. <br />So I am very happy that your sister is not leaving you, and it is difficult for both of you. <br /><br />The most difficult years of my infertility was when all my nieces and nephews were born (now they are from 3 to 10). Now - that everybody (except me) got the number of children they wish for - no more new arrivals are predicted. It sounds selfish, but it is so much easier for me.<br /><br />(a note: when the children are there - I just love them, it is pregnancies and infants that hurt me). <br /><br />wishing you all the best.<br /><br />sending a warm hug accross the Atlantic.Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-12172118081492221862017-10-20T06:22:29.909-04:002017-10-20T06:22:29.909-04:00Does it help I’m still pissed off about this situa...Does it help I’m still pissed off about this situation too? Seriously, all of this was handled beyond poorly. And the fact that she’s excited to have you visit means she really can’t see how much she hurt you.<br /><br />Give yourself an out. Also, I think your nephew has earned a toy that requires batteries. Sing-along books come to mind.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.com