tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post1673134470245510842..comments2023-04-26T10:48:38.547-04:00Comments on Bent Not Broken: I chose meBentNotBrokenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-61590686432629955952015-03-24T08:04:52.318-04:002015-03-24T08:04:52.318-04:00Periods that required transfusions?! Holy crap! ...Periods that required transfusions?! Holy crap! I don't think that any of mine were ever that bad, but then again I never sought medical treatment during heavy bleeding/clotting. Though when I told the midwife about the size of clots that I regularly pass she was equal parts horrified and awestruck. It was the Mirena that I got. Initially I wanted to avoid hormones for a whole slew of reasons but the non-hormonal copper IUD almost always causes heavier or significantly heavier periods, and that wasn't a safe option.BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-7109945194270370542015-03-24T07:58:13.981-04:002015-03-24T07:58:13.981-04:00It's funny...I debated about even writing this...It's funny...I debated about even writing this because I was convinced that I was making too big of a deal about this and didn't want to put my crazy on full display, but it seems that my feelings/experiences aren't so uncommon after all. <br /><br />I totally get infertility wreaking havoc on nerves and spirt. Confidence too. Infertility broke me. It shattered my nerves, spirit, and confidence. I'm slowly getting that back. In many ways I think that getting the IUD was huge step in reclaiming me. In many ways it was a symbolic middle finger to infertility and my reproductive system.<br /><br />The nurse was a total jerk. I'm glad that I stood up to her. Sometimes my sarcastic nature comes in handy. And when you've been through infertility, yes, you do know. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-64566953003821586532015-03-24T03:41:30.219-04:002015-03-24T03:41:30.219-04:00For what it's worth, you made the decision tha...For what it's worth, you made the decision that was right for you, so it was the right decision. I hope the mirena (or whatever) helps with your horrific periods. Having experienced some like that, and needed blood transfusions as a result, I know that you're not exaggerating, and that you need to take your health seriously. <br /><br />I liked your response to the nurse. I have no patience for people like her who should know better.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-64281459792698765332015-03-23T16:50:57.953-04:002015-03-23T16:50:57.953-04:00Sounds like a very tough choice. I know the slive...Sounds like a very tough choice. I know the sliver of a chance that might have existed for us getting pregnant (sounds promising, no?) in the months after our last failed treatment wreaked havoc on my nerves and spirit. I can relate to the logical part of your brain having cat fights with that sliver of a chance technicality part. It can be brutal. I'm confident you made the choice that was right for you, but I can appreciate it wasn't easy and that either choice has some tough ramifications.<br /><br />As far as your preg test story, I died laughing. That's a great story. Horrible, but great. I'm glad you gave it to her. I truly hate the "but the test might be positive" types. I think this attitude in and of itself should be considered a felony. Pigs might fly too, if you're a moron. And it's hilarious you said "math" - I'm always commenting about how fertile people can't do math and I actually call it "fertile world math". No doubt this was a total fertile world math scenario. Someone tried the "you never know" crap on me once - complete with that whiny self righteous voice and wagging pointer finger that I can't stand - to which I responded "That's totally untrue. Sometimes you DO know." Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-27987055620639947392015-03-23T07:17:17.037-04:002015-03-23T07:17:17.037-04:00That is really sound advice! I'm really glad ...That is really sound advice! I'm really glad that birth control pills weren't my only option because I don't like missing with taking them every day or the side effects, but I knew that for my mental health I needed to do something. I imagine that a "scare" years after giving up the dream would leave me feeling ticked off too! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-19455517922399888932015-03-21T21:19:21.079-04:002015-03-21T21:19:21.079-04:00The social worker/counsellor I saw to talk about i...The social worker/counsellor I saw to talk about infertility treatments & when/whether to stop encouraged us to consider some kind of birth control. She said, "I know it sounds crazy, after everything you've done to try to have a baby, but unless you do, you'll always have that nagging little hope at that back of your head every month." We never did take her advice -- partly because I didn't want to have to go back on the pill, or mess around with anything else -- but I have to admit, she was right. I had a pg "scare" in my mid-40s & I was quite surprised at how ticked off I felt. I knew then that I had come a lot further down the road of acceptance than I had figured. ;) And we were a lot more careful after that. loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-64565240567433785002015-03-18T20:45:02.153-04:002015-03-18T20:45:02.153-04:00Thank you so much for being there over the weekend...Thank you so much for being there over the weekend during my mini freak out/feel sorry for myself episode. It really did mean a lot! I am lucky to count you as a friend, Klara! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-89034985515599057512015-03-18T20:39:11.249-04:002015-03-18T20:39:11.249-04:00I'm so sorry to hear that you have bad periods...I'm so sorry to hear that you have bad periods too! I wouldn't wish this pain on anyone, It's like a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation, isn't it? I was on birth control pills for a long time, too, but always had terrible side effects. So I'm really, really hoping that this isn't the case with the IUD. I'm hoping that I won't need a hysterectomy, but considering no maternal side female relative has made it to 40 with their uterus, it wouldn't surprise me if I need one too.<br /><br />If you think it would be helpful, I'm happy to give IUD updates (side effects, period updates, etc.). Very little is TMI to me. :)BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-5066997102026734862015-03-18T16:27:31.920-04:002015-03-18T16:27:31.920-04:00Yes, hope is a vile bitch. I know.
You had two cr...Yes, hope is a vile bitch. I know. <br />You had two crappy choices, so you have chosen less crappy one. <br />I know it was hard and heartbreaking choice. But the other possibility was to suffer for a decade or more.<br />wishing you all the best!<br />hugs from Europe,<br />Klara<br /><br /><br />Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-23091352002223458152015-03-18T09:21:49.149-04:002015-03-18T09:21:49.149-04:00I feel your pain on the horrible periods, literall...I feel your pain on the horrible periods, literally. I took birth control for years, to regulate my body. But it only worked 90% of the time; twice a year, I still would have a killer period. And I got sick of taking a pill every day, so I stopped. I've actually started thinking about having a hysterectomy, but I'm just not sure if I can make that choice yet. Like you, its nearly impossible for us to get pregnant (think zero sperm count = zero babies).Savannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17584445611402346917noreply@blogger.com