tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post8851330817452838659..comments2023-04-26T10:48:38.547-04:00Comments on Bent Not Broken: Privilege BentNotBrokenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-43104879271404680432017-08-03T05:10:48.949-04:002017-08-03T05:10:48.949-04:00It is evident that a million miles journey starts ...It is evident that a million miles journey starts with a single step. It is very inspiring and at the same time humbling to learn all the hardship you had to endure to be where you are today. Taking life easy and doing the necessary at the right moment saves a destiny. It is a wonderful piece.<br /><br /><a href="https://svsautocare.wordpress.com/2017/07/04/mechanics-can-diagnose-compressor-troubles-for-your-air-conditioner/" rel="nofollow">Madonna Gentry @ SVS Autocare</a>Madonna Gentryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745335578386651967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-43978465307003362552017-03-01T04:17:34.633-05:002017-03-01T04:17:34.633-05:00I’ve come back several times to re-read this entry...I’ve come back several times to re-read this entry. I find myself nodding in agreement with so many of your points, either through my own experiences or that we share a similar thinking. <br /><br />It’s a very moving piece of writing. <br />As much as I like to think we’ve come along way with equality for all, our lack of compassion still in so many areas makes me realise we still have a long way to go.<br /><br />The march here had a very good turnout, minus me, unfortunately. I was on a long drive up the coast visiting relatives before arriving for a week’s holiday. I’ll be waiting for the next one.<br />Kathrynhttp://gr8southlandgirl.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-79853622452745943232017-02-15T04:31:12.704-05:002017-02-15T04:31:12.704-05:00I don't know if they still ask for the husband...I don't know if they still ask for the husband's consent here for many things (I'm sure they probably do for tying tubes) but I do know that when I had IVF in 2010 the clinic would only accept married couples and asked to see marriage certificates, which I found shocking. There was also some news a few years ago about hospitals here rejecting trials of one of the big life-saving breast cancer drugs because to take it, women of child-bearing age had to be on birth control - the nuns/priests on the hospital boards were against it. That really shook me up. Terrifying. A hatred of women advocating for themselves.Different Shoreshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01552043510975777003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-69561512938510058742017-02-07T19:59:59.396-05:002017-02-07T19:59:59.396-05:00"I had equal odds of making something of myse..."I had equal odds of making something of myself and of being an unwed mother of three on welfare and cooking meth to sell in my free time. I was smart, I just didn't have a whole lot of direction back then." I've probably asked you this before, but have you read "Hillbilly Elegy" by J.D. Vance? He gives a lot of credit to his grandmother & several other supportive adults (including teachers) for recognizing & encouraging his potential. <br /><br />I can't believe they asked if you had your husband's consent for your procedure either. Holy crap. :p STILL. <br /><br />Anyway, FABULOUS post! <3 loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-27293432964166043792017-02-07T15:50:32.737-05:002017-02-07T15:50:32.737-05:00Thanks, DS! I'm in a pretty traditionally Cat...Thanks, DS! I'm in a pretty traditionally Catholic area as well (though not nearly as Catholic as Ireland) and many of those values persist in the hospital systems, though it seems to be becoming less of an issue. I'm not sure if I'd been getting my tubes tied if the surgery would have proceeded without his consent though.BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-85816458183056712412017-02-07T15:48:10.524-05:002017-02-07T15:48:10.524-05:00Thanks, Justine! Agreed that the Women's Marc...Thanks, Justine! Agreed that the Women's March was just the first stand of many that we'll have to take over the next few years! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-17683126220321059372017-02-07T11:24:04.887-05:002017-02-07T11:24:04.887-05:00Just catching up here. What a brilliant piece, BnB...Just catching up here. What a brilliant piece, BnB. Also incredulous that you were asked if your husband consented to your procedure and had to get his signature. Living in Ireland, though, where the Catholic Church's influence over hospitals persists and some major ones are owned outright by religious charities, nothing surprises me. <br />This is great writing.https://differentshoresblog.wordpress.com/https://www.blogger.com/profile/16936131757889957955noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-82689421747634060902017-02-06T23:21:08.814-05:002017-02-06T23:21:08.814-05:00I've just popped in again - and see my iPad ch...I've just popped in again - and see my iPad changed "consented" to "condemned!" I'm glad you knew what I meant!<br /><br />Good grief. It's still mind-boggling though, in the 21st century. Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-7726579964825981162017-01-29T22:18:19.673-05:002017-01-29T22:18:19.673-05:00Thank you for posting, for standing in solidarity....Thank you for posting, for standing in solidarity. Please don't feel badly about not going! So many of us carried women we knew with us that day, who for whatever reasons wanted to come and couldn't. Our physical presence is only the beginning anyway. <3Justine Lhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14190295175501659469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-32043549185200121402017-01-28T20:54:18.443-05:002017-01-28T20:54:18.443-05:00Thanks, Mali!
I think it was hospital policy as o...Thanks, Mali!<br /><br />I think it was hospital policy as opposed to insurance. The hospital was originally opened by Catholic sisters or something like that. I declined allowing him to consent, they pushed a little, and I stayed firm. After they realized my position wasn't going to budge, they laid off. He definitely supported me, and he was right there in the hospital with me. I gladly signed the forms for him to make medical decisions for me if I was unable to do so for myself. I don't think it was that big of a deal (the surgery happened and he never signed any paperwork), it just stuck with me. <br /><br />Now I wonder if they only wanted his consent because it was a procedure on my reproductive parts as opposed to some other part of my body....hopefully I won't have to find out! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-78705443087814358682017-01-28T20:48:54.182-05:002017-01-28T20:48:54.182-05:00I really do hope that empathy will grow. And I to...I really do hope that empathy will grow. And I totally agree about all people marching, because this is about human rights, not just women's rights. Honestly, I will be thankful to Planned Parenthood for the rest of my life. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-21474300338350236732017-01-28T20:36:22.114-05:002017-01-28T20:36:22.114-05:00I felt like a coward too, but then a friend remind...I felt like a coward too, but then a friend reminded me that there will be many more opportunities in the coming days. I look forward to protesting with you! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-83013240680897910852017-01-28T20:34:25.893-05:002017-01-28T20:34:25.893-05:00Definitely get the thoughts out and into your own ...Definitely get the thoughts out and into your own post. It's cathartic, I promise. Don't abandon it. It's so important to get your voice out there! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-72222909980167803482017-01-28T16:47:30.291-05:002017-01-28T16:47:30.291-05:00Wonderful post!
I too was stopped in my tracks -...Wonderful post! <br /><br />I too was stopped in my tracks - I could hardly finish your post - when you said you were asked if your husband condemned. I'm curious - was that hospital or insurance? If you'd said "no" would they have still performed the procedure? (My jaw is still on the floor.)Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-32035331543749340242017-01-28T11:23:00.531-05:002017-01-28T11:23:00.531-05:00Yes! Beautiful. I have a privilege post brewing as...Yes! Beautiful. I have a privilege post brewing as well, and the more people explore this idea of privilege the more I hope empathy will grow and swell and people will see why women march, for ALL women (and people, really). I can't believe your husband had to consent to your surgery, that sounds so like something from another time, a dystopic detail that's true today in 2017. I am glad Planned Parenthood was so vital to you -- I have never personally used their services but donate heavily to them because of the many, MANY things they provide to women and families. Awesome post, I love it so much!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15868505568965284742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-87716115845821645082017-01-26T17:19:46.094-05:002017-01-26T17:19:46.094-05:00I also did not march, mostly because I had to work...I also did not march, mostly because I had to work and was afraid to ask for a very busy day off. I feel a bit like a coward, and that I missed out on something truly important and life altering. I will never again take the opportunity to protest for granted, and I will seize every opportunity in the future. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10069476011831712293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-43205088026410838902017-01-25T09:22:29.841-05:002017-01-25T09:22:29.841-05:00I've been attempting to write a blog post of m...I've been attempting to write a blog post of my own on this very topic, but I get so far in and I get too emotional, too frustrated, sad, etc. to adequately put into words what I'm feeling. <br /><br />I, too, feel as you do. I, too, have empathy for those who do not have the same opportunities I have had. I, too, feel bad that I did not march. Thank you for sharing your story. I need to find a way to put this into my own post, but I just wanted you to know that your post inspired me to be able to find a way to write it out, as I almost abandoned the subject completely. JHousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03292723324350729491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-83833730295948219482017-01-24T15:54:57.105-05:002017-01-24T15:54:57.105-05:00I hope the movement is just beginning! I would lo...I hope the movement is just beginning! I would love to march alongside you! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-44104864039872032732017-01-24T14:51:48.846-05:002017-01-24T14:51:48.846-05:00Amen!!! And thank you. Beautifully said and very m...Amen!!! And thank you. Beautifully said and very much needed during these times. I know you regret not marching, but I believe this movement is just the beginning. And next time we'll figure out a way to meet up so we can do this together.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.com