tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post8603953145218365078..comments2023-04-26T10:48:38.547-04:00Comments on Bent Not Broken: Aha momentBentNotBrokenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-90587564392904676762015-05-31T20:49:29.935-04:002015-05-31T20:49:29.935-04:00I'm glad that you stopped by! I'm not fin...I'm glad that you stopped by! I'm not finished reading all of the old posts yet because you give me a ton of food for thought. My goal is to read your entire blog and then I'll read your book. :)<br /><br />I'll definitely shoot you an email to say hi! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-80182568270348184472015-05-31T17:48:51.386-04:002015-05-31T17:48:51.386-04:00Thank you so much for this incredible post and fea...Thank you so much for this incredible post and featuring Ever Upward. I am thankful and humbled by how much time you must have spent going back and reading the blog; I have already started to organize it all into another book to publish one day. I would love to send you a copy of Ever Upward, please email me at everupwardbook@gmail.com. Thank you again for your encouragement and the support! Much love, JustineAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-6123320467014728042015-05-31T08:28:28.590-04:002015-05-31T08:28:28.590-04:00Thanks, Loribeth! The comment took me by surprise...Thanks, Loribeth! The comment took me by surprise. It wasn't meant to be hurtful, just a comment said in passing, but holy crap it hurt. But it's not my problem and if they want to see that one little part of my life and not all of the other awesomeness. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-88829018082103224442015-05-30T21:50:34.427-04:002015-05-30T21:50:34.427-04:00"If I'm your worst nightmare, that's ..."If I'm your worst nightmare, that's your problem, not mine." Oh, BnB, how I love this!! :) The whole post, really, but that one sentence in particular. Thank you for that! :) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-35291250779277953022015-05-30T07:32:17.359-04:002015-05-30T07:32:17.359-04:00Mali, so many of your posts are ones that I have b...Mali, so many of your posts are ones that I have bookmarked! :) Your post about acceptance is spot on. I won't go as far as to say that I'm happy, but I'm seeing glimpses of happy. I'm happy more days than I'm not.<br /><br />And you're right, it is what it is. It was never meant to be. But I can be happy.BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-70486910784257625262015-05-29T19:33:47.903-04:002015-05-29T19:33:47.903-04:00Justine's post certainly marks a truth that we...Justine's post certainly marks a truth that we all - at some stage - come to understand. I wrote about acceptance some years ago - http://nokiddinginnz.blogspot.co.nz/2011/12/acceptance-what-is-it.html. I think that's why so many people still "in the trenches" can't understand how we can ever be happy. But they don't realise that acceptance doesn't mean we never wanted it, or that we rejoice we never got it. It simply means that we accept that it is what it is (to use a much over-used phrase), and decide to be happy.Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-68709236876419990852015-05-28T15:27:11.587-04:002015-05-28T15:27:11.587-04:00Hi Becky! I'm so glad you found my post meani...Hi Becky! I'm so glad you found my post meaningful. I think you should also check out Justine's blog because she articulates these things so much better than I do. You are definitely not alone though. :)<br /><br />I'm hoping that once we own our truths, that confidence will come along too. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-89488294152017040092015-05-28T15:19:39.329-04:002015-05-28T15:19:39.329-04:00Savannah, that was a beautiful post. I too strugg...Savannah, that was a beautiful post. I too struggle with forgiving myself....your words are so meaningful to me where I am right now. Hugs! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-50267207232910375372015-05-28T14:57:03.343-04:002015-05-28T14:57:03.343-04:00Ooooooooooooo this is so good. I really needed to ...Ooooooooooooo this is so good. I really needed to hear this post today. I'm just now starting to dip my toes in the water of owning my own truth, even when it looks nothing like what I thought it would or what other people expect. Thanks so much for sharing this today, it made me a little bit less alone in all this.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11703481094197544196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-46019491582902288002015-05-28T11:15:17.018-04:002015-05-28T11:15:17.018-04:00I had my own AHA moment about a year ago, http://b...I had my own AHA moment about a year ago, http://because-i-cant-have-babies.blogspot.com/2014/04/forgiving-myself.html. Savannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17584445611402346917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-90735003860456528652015-05-28T08:27:07.979-04:002015-05-28T08:27:07.979-04:00So true about the naysayers! If there's anyth...So true about the naysayers! If there's anything that I've learned, it's that the only right answer is the answer that's right for a woman and her partner. <br /><br />I don't looking at choosing to stop treatment as quitting. Simply put, it just means that you're choosing a different path. I think that the "don't ever give up" motto that often surrounds ART is dangerous. Whatever you and your husband choose, I know it will be the right decision for the two of you.BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-37042213693537312222015-05-28T07:43:41.995-04:002015-05-28T07:43:41.995-04:00Thank you for posting the snippet from that blog p...Thank you for posting the snippet from that blog post and for your thoughts. I, for one, really needed to hear this and to know that there were people who felt this way besides me. <br /><br />You should not feel ashamed that you went as far as you were willing to go. I really wish some people would understand this too. You are in no way 'less than'. I think you are a very brave, very strong person. Ignore the naysayers. They rarely know what they are talking about.<br /><br /> I recently spoke with someone who had undergone quite a number of ivf treatments and ended up with her happy ending. When I mentioned that I didn't know if I really wanted to put myself through another full cycle, I was told that I shouldn't give up and that I should persist and keep going because I've come so far already. I admit, that did get my back up a little bit because I felt that was my choice to make. I kind of felt as though this person was saying I didn't want it bad enough if I quit now.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com