tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post5055109177140474991..comments2023-04-26T10:48:38.547-04:00Comments on Bent Not Broken: That first is overBentNotBrokenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-63947352633376331422016-05-09T08:39:55.984-04:002016-05-09T08:39:55.984-04:00I hope so too! Thanks! Despite not being Italian...I hope so too! Thanks! Despite not being Italian (not even a little bit, anywhere in my heritage), I fit right in with the Italian side of hubs' family (his paternal grandma was born in Italy) and they wholeheartedly embraced me. My SIL even remarked after my first Christmas with the family that she wasn't fully accepted until after she had their first kid and I was accepted within 20 minutes.BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-13250438041562857392016-05-08T14:16:19.927-04:002016-05-08T14:16:19.927-04:00I so know that feeling of being an alien, especial...I so know that feeling of being an alien, especially among dh's family. I'm still the only non-Italian to marry into his mom's side, 30+ years later. Still the only married couple not to have procreated. The first (and I suspect only, for quite some time to come) couple of our generation to buy and live in a condo. Sorry the visit wasn't better, but here's hoping this paved the way for easier ones in the future. (((hugs))) loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-63510436107119515392016-04-28T20:33:46.565-04:002016-04-28T20:33:46.565-04:00On the house buying front, we're in the "...On the house buying front, we're in the "waiting to close" phase too....and it feels like it's taking for freaking ever. I'm sure you can relate! It also seems like I'm finding something new to freak out about every day too. Ugh. Just a few more weeks.BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-86616535806501327012016-04-28T16:19:36.734-04:002016-04-28T16:19:36.734-04:00I'm sure with the home buying process you are ...I'm sure with the home buying process you are very busy. In theory I am just sitting around waiting to close and I still find like, 5 things a day to freak out about. Hope that it's going smoothly for you. Melioshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17748771387687894229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-90603802581793865242016-04-26T20:31:20.502-04:002016-04-26T20:31:20.502-04:00Thanks, Klara! <3
It's nice to not feel s...Thanks, Klara! <3<br /><br />It's nice to not feel so alone.<br />BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-4245153320020234162016-04-26T20:30:48.831-04:002016-04-26T20:30:48.831-04:00Distance does have it's perks, and I live far ...Distance does have it's perks, and I live far enough away that I'm not expected (nor do I feel obligated) to go to everything. Thankfully! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-83771116484211546472016-04-26T20:29:19.901-04:002016-04-26T20:29:19.901-04:00Yeah, it is the kids that make it all worthwhile. ...Yeah, it is the kids that make it all worthwhile. Super busy this week, but that's much better than idle time for me anyway. BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-81775821311731966232016-04-26T20:28:24.677-04:002016-04-26T20:28:24.677-04:00I think it will get easier. I hope anyway. At le...I think it will get easier. I hope anyway. At least I know that I have an outlet here if things don't go well. :)BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-2524629169516281452016-04-26T01:10:51.970-04:002016-04-26T01:10:51.970-04:00I am sending you tons of hugs across the Atlantic....I am sending you tons of hugs across the Atlantic.<br />Yes, I know. How many times did I feel like an alien. Breastfeeding is the hardest thing of all. Klarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17028863974858724867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-69638961451092501832016-04-25T18:23:21.049-04:002016-04-25T18:23:21.049-04:00It sounds like you coped remarkably well with what...It sounds like you coped remarkably well with what sounds like a very painful set of stimuli. I hope the after effects don't haunt you and deprive you of sleep for too long. As you know, I agree whole heartedly with everyone who has commented that you shouldn't feel obliged to go to (all) these gatherings. Wishing you a peaceful week.<br /><br />Best wishes,<br /><br />Naomi MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-24538804732404406312016-04-25T09:05:14.559-04:002016-04-25T09:05:14.559-04:00Just taking the step of exposing yourself to that ...Just taking the step of exposing yourself to that environment is a big deal. There is a fine line between protecting yourself, and cutting yourself off. Going in knowing there are going to be triggers is awesome, an I too find the kids are way better to deal with than the adults (like my MIL saying I might change my mind, like I have the choice, just this past weekend grr....). There is no possible way to redirect the conversation though, it's futile. At that point it's better to just play with the kids. Hope you have some recovery time this week. Melioshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17748771387687894229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-12423118396459408792016-04-25T08:33:03.835-04:002016-04-25T08:33:03.835-04:00I can feel the sadness from this post. I know you ...I can feel the sadness from this post. I know you knew it would be hard going in, still I'm sorry you are feeling left out by your siblings. But you did a brave thing. And it is my hope that as time goes on (and the nieces and nephews grow) it will become easier. Sending you a hug today.Cristyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04317873211902543387noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-6511528068570431992016-04-24T22:37:04.984-04:002016-04-24T22:37:04.984-04:00Add on: I totally feel like an alien in my family....Add on: I totally feel like an alien in my family. It's so hard to see my siblings' (and sibs'-in-law) relationships with parents change. And ours stays the same. Hanging out playing with the toddlers makes it easier to not face how we are separate, apart, and different from the other adults in the room. <br /><br />You are one strong lady! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-9189242656000154282016-04-24T22:32:02.911-04:002016-04-24T22:32:02.911-04:00Congratulations on making it through! I totally fi...Congratulations on making it through! I totally find the kids easier than the grownups. Especially once they develop personalities and I can't think that they might look like mine would have. It's hard - so hard. Good call on retreating when you needed to. *Hugs*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-8822805843026307402016-04-24T22:05:08.937-04:002016-04-24T22:05:08.937-04:00Thanks! I suppose if I can survive this, I can su...Thanks! I suppose if I can survive this, I can survive anything. :)BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-66739382487476392122016-04-24T22:02:53.149-04:002016-04-24T22:02:53.149-04:00Breastfeeding is one of my biggest triggers. Whil...Breastfeeding is one of my biggest triggers. While I'll always support a woman's right to feed her child wherever it is needed, I also know that I can't be around it, so I remove myself from the situation. Which sometimes makes me look bad, but whatever. <br /><br />It has to get better (I hope). At least the first time is out of the way! BentNotBrokenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10151724076659555122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-14660996564811798502016-04-24T21:58:32.257-04:002016-04-24T21:58:32.257-04:00: (
There’s nothing like ticking off your trigger...: ( <br />There’s nothing like ticking off your trigger list in one fell swoop. <br />(((HUGS))) my friend, (((HUGS))).<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6102758362320348657.post-81644905130583966682016-04-24T21:23:34.427-04:002016-04-24T21:23:34.427-04:00I'm glad it's over. Breastfeeding - yes, t...I'm glad it's over. Breastfeeding - yes, that one is tough! <br /><br />I think in the early days you need to protect yourself, especially if the adults aren't thinking of how their conversations affect you. If you can't be there for every gathering, they'll just have to accept it. It will I hope (I'm almost certain) get better. Malihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03928262526502319303noreply@blogger.com